Like all good students, you’ve completed the mentor homework described in part one. Now, you are ready to contact a potential mentor.
Making the initial contact
Once you have pinpointed a potential mentor; try to find out as much as you can about him or her before you reach out. See if you have any common connections on LinkedIn. Although you may not personally know a potential mentor, a positive introduction from someone you have in common can definitely be favorable.
If you’re reaching out to someone blind (meaning someone with whom you have no connections), go for a quick introduction along with any commonalities, specific interests or discussion points. Try to make a quick connection with your potential mentor to hopefully pique his or her curiosity and spark interest in meeting with you. Be specific on your request and what you’re looking for from a mentor. This will help your potential mentor determine whether he or she and you are a good mentor match. It’s critical that your note is clear and succinct; if your note rambles, your potential mentor will assume you’ll ramble when you meet in person.
Depending on potential mentor’s level (and how well you know him or her), you should ask for as little time as possible; begin with a 15-minute phone conversation. It’s critical to stick to that time period! That way, your mentor knows he or she can count on you to respect his or her time in the future.
If you don’t hear from your potential mentor, follow-up, but don’t hound him or her. Check-in two to three weeks after your initial contact, but after that, you need to assume he or she doesn’t have the time to meet you right now. Try to maintain a relationship (even if it’s one way) by sending notes or articles that may interest him or her.
Once you get the meeting
Always keep in mind that your mentor is doing you a favor, so make sure that you are appreciative of the time that your mentor takes out of his or her schedule to assist you. I strongly recommend traveling to him or her to make the most of the time you have together. You want to make it as easy as possible for your mentor to help you!
During the meeting or phone call, ask for your mentor’s advice on a single topic or problem. Don’t overwhelm him or her with every question you ever wanted to know! Instead, use this opportunity to build rapport with a future mentor. The goal is to establish a relationship for the long-term, not a one-and-done meeting.
During your initial meeting, ask your mentor how he or she would like to communicate and how often. Don’t make assumptions about your mentor’s time or how he or she likes to communicate.
Furthermore, remember that the advice your mentor gives may not always be easy to swallow, but your mentor got to where he or she is for a reason. Set pride aside and allow yourself to be both teachable and coachable. Cultivate the relationship by asking questions and sincerely listening to the answers. Here are a few other helpful tips for working with a mentor:
- Help your mentor help you. If you have a specific question or need, let your mentor know. It’s up to you to do the homework for your meetings and set the schedule. Many times, people don’t get into mentoring relationships because they don’t know where to start.
- Have fun! Although your ultimate goal is to learn, there is nothing that says you can’t enjoy the time you spend with your mentor. Make your meetings a time that both of you look forward to.
- Return the favor. There is bound to be some skill in which you excel that you can assist your mentor with. Mentorship is a two-way street, so try to help your mentor in any way that you can.
Remember, you get out of a mentoring program what you put in. Make it worth both your time and that of your mentor’s. If nurtured, the relationship with your mentor can be one that lasts throughout your career!